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Poster: micah6vs8 Date: Jan 2, 2012 7:51am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: new years resolutions

I don't know about the New Year's part, but it does coincide with the beginning of earnest preparations for my firstborn's final take off from the nest. While not eminent, I don't want to fuck this up or rush the process. I can't believe how old/big he is. Sometimes it makes me want to sit outside and cry. I was at home for the first years of his life and literally carried that sucker all the time. We would take epic walks w/ him in his stroller and see if we could make it back before twilight. Or my futile attempts to play ball w/ him at the neighborhood field. (He still can't/won't play, oh well.) His breaking away began years ago, as it always does w/ all our children and should. My children all hear my constant refrain, 'Question All Authority'. Of course, it's always fun when you are the Authority.
But this 'resolution' is not his questioning or trying different roles out, but the big transition, in slow motion, but very real and happening. And from his 36 hour delivery to this very moment is but a blink of my eye. God help me do what is good.

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Poster: reviewr Date: Jan 3, 2012 2:07pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: new years resolutions

My oldest is leaving home soon too, and I also was a stay-at-home dad (still am mostly). I've been preparing for this for nearly 18 years, but I'm not nearly ready.

I think my parents were glad to see me go. I know I wanted to get away. But, I'm really going to miss my daughter - we get along great.

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Poster: user unknown Date: Jan 2, 2012 3:09pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: new years resolutions

micah, they leave and if you're not careful they come back ;)

I know it is stressful, my "babies" are 34 and 29. Both are "out of the nest" at present...well 1, is the other comes and goes bi-weekly(long story).

Hope all goes well for you my friend and the young-un.

This post was modified by user unknown on 2012-01-02 23:09:49

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Poster: Mandojammer Date: Jan 3, 2012 10:00am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: new years resolutions

Sean -

Having already been through it with our oldest let me offer this thought. It's not mine, but my wife found it and it now hangs prominently in our house.

"The two best things parents can give their children are roots.....and wings."

It doesn't make it hurt any less, but if you've given them both roots and wings they never truly leave.

Happy New Year.

PS - I am going to be a 183% basket case when I walk my little girl down the aisle in 109 days, 1 hour and 55 minutes........

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Poster: micah6vs8 Date: Jan 3, 2012 10:14am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: new years resolutions

R.- Good luck walking down the aisle with your daughter. As I have three boys that honor will never be mine. Your training may come in good use, so you let it all go after the newlyweds are on their way. Here's to a beautiful late April wedding w/ no rain. Congratulations!
(And you now have 109 days, 1 hour and 30 minutes. Also, under 200% basket case levels are reported to still keep you together, so you're good.)

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Poster: user unknown Date: Jan 3, 2012 12:10pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: new years resolutions

I've taken that stroll as well. Mando you'll live through it, but yea it is basket case time.

Best of luck to the newlyweds...and to to you my friend.

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Poster: high flow Date: Jan 3, 2012 1:11pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: new years resolutions

So I supposed to give my daughter an Alex Haley novel and a case of Red Bull?:)

Seriously, my girl is turning 10 in less than a week.....the day she was born time stood still. Since that day time has been a wretched thief.

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Poster: Mandojammer Date: Jan 3, 2012 1:26pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: new years resolutions

Well said flow....

I can tell you it is an amazing journey to be privileged to be a part of. There are many times I wish my kids were young again, but we are still very, very close and still do many things together so I'm not sure I'd be willing to trade those days away either.

Sheesh, three days into the new year and you jackwagons got me all weepy eyed....

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Poster: micah6vs8 Date: Jan 3, 2012 2:23pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: new years resolutions

Well said indeed hf.